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| | Subject: sticky situation need some advice | Posted: June 30, 2009 @ 1:10 AM | | Okay so about two months ago I started dating this guy named Josh. He was really sweet and everything and we met through my best friend Stephanie who reassured me that me and him would get along great. And at first she was right...he was really nice everything was going good. But then I just kind of noticed that a lot of his personality traits turned me off and I kind of lost my attraction to him. And he also talked about the future a lot...which really freaks me out because I'm not a think about the future kinda gal. So basically blah blah I broke up with him about a week ago. So we decide to still be friends and it's been going fine except he still acts like we're dating. Like he'll call me affectionate names and tell me that he misses me. And he still says that he misses me being around so he can cuddle (and so on haha). I don't wanna be like a total jerk and be like 'can you shut up' haha because I really do wanna be friends with him, he's a great guy. But he just won't lay off. So I was just wondering if you girls had any advice on how to get him to maybe stop doing this? because it's really freaking me out haha.
sorry that was such a novel, i'm just really confused =[
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| | | | | | Subject: sticky situation need some advice | Posted: June 30, 2009 @ 1:17 AM | | Hi Hon 
You just have to be honest, upfront and direct to the point with him, no beating around the bush.
Just tell him "hey I really appreciate your friendship and I really want us to be "Friends" his reply then should be ok, or if he does the "oh I thought we are friends" then you can say, "yes we are but all the pet names / affectionate names etc is making me feel really uncomfortable, do you think we can savage our friendship without any hurt feelings " ?
And if he says yes and starts acting weird, then just end the friendship, if he starts acting more respectful to your wishes, then things should go ok.
I've had to do this a couple of times and unfortunately had to end up ending the friendship because the guy always wanted more then what I could offer friendship wise, they always want to take it or try talking me into taking it to the romantic level.
Good Luck, I'm sure your do just fine  |
| | | | | | Subject: sticky situation need some advice | Posted: July 2, 2009 @ 9:22 PM | | thank you so much for your great advice. It's totally true..I need to just confront him about it. I really can't take it anymore and it's just really out of line. I see him tomorrow so I'm gonna talk to him about it then and see how it goes =]
Hopefully we'll be able to still be friends but if not I'm okay with letting him go if that's what I need to do.
thanks again =]
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