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| | Subject: I WANT HIM OUT OF MY BED!!! | Posted: March 11, 2009 @ 2:00 AM | | Hey ladies. I'm new to the community and was really glad to see this chat group. Maybe someone has a solution for this problem.....
My son is 14 months old and is extremely attached to me. My husband and I have two older girls (one's 10 and one's6) and they were attached but not like him. I cannot be out of his sight for one minute. He screams like a banshee if I do so much as check the mail. Needless to say, he sleeps with us. Don't get me wrong- we purchased a crib and he slept in it for the first year without a problem.
As he has gotten older, he has now taken to waking up at least 2 to 3 times a night, crying to lay on me. His crib is in our room so I can't help but hear him and I'm usually so tired, I just give in. He falls right back asleep within minutes and I attempt to place him back in the crib but like clockwork, he wakes up within 20 minutes. Some nights, I get lucky and he'll stay down after a couple of tries but I am SO TIRED! You'd think that at this age I'd be getting more rest. My girls were both easier than this.
If anyone out there has any suggestions, please HELP! |
| | | | | | Subject: I WANT HIM OUT OF MY BED!!! | Posted: March 11, 2009 @ 2:18 AM | | I know you get tired
but my advice would be to not give in
eventually if you do this your son should grow out of this
slowly wing him off you but of course still be there for him  |
| | | | | | Subject: I WANT HIM OUT OF MY BED!!! | Posted: March 11, 2009 @ 9:13 AM | | | I have to start off by saying that I havent actually had children but I have a god/step child. She was the exact same way. You could not move without her wanting to know if you were about to leave. When she started to walk she would get up when I got up. She just got attached and was scared to not be with you. What her mother and I had to do was to let her be around other children more often to try to put her mind at ease. We got her involved in other activities so that by bed time she was so tired that she stopped waking up. She's 3 now and she doesnt pitch a fit if we leave the room. I would also say that you have to stick with it if it's a problem for you. I dont know anyone who doesnt throw a fit if they know it will get the response they want. |
| | | | | | Subject: I WANT HIM OUT OF MY BED!!! | Posted: March 11, 2009 @ 9:39 AM | | Get the book "Solve your childs sleep problems" By Dr. Richard Ferber.
I had the same problem with my daughter, But I was nursing too. My girl would wake up every hour to nurse and I was getting NO sleep. This went on till she was 15 mths old. Finally I had had it. so I went to a pediatrician and he told me about the book, and that every parent that has tried it said they had positive results. So we said "hey what have we got to lose?" so We tried it, and after 2 weeks she was sleeping by herself and not waking up at night at all. Now I'll tell you right now, It is VERY hard on a parent to have to listen to their child cry but know that it is for the health and good of the child and for you as well that you get the proper amount of sleep. The book is also good because it talks about the different cycles of sleep and actually explains sleep itself in detail. It was VERY VERY VERY helpful for us, and now when anyone asks for sleep advice for their child, I immediatly recommend it. now a pre-warning, You are going to want to give up the very first night, I guarantee it, but DONT!!! stick with it and you will see results. Just remember, Crying will not hurt your child. I hope this helps. I was where you are just a couple of months ago so I completly understand. But this book WILL help you 
ps-Dr Richard Ferber is the Director of the centre for Pediactric Sleep Disorders in Boston(He knows what hes talking about lol )
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| | | | | | Subject: I WANT HIM OUT OF MY BED!!! | Posted: March 11, 2009 @ 9:14 PM | | Thanks for the replies ladies, they give me hope. I will be looking for that book as well! |
| | | | | | Subject: I WANT HIM OUT OF MY BED!!! | Posted: March 13, 2009 @ 1:13 PM | | I had this problem with my 2nd son. He was so attached that it wasn't funny. He would sleep with us and make me and my Husband crazy. Finally we decided to start putting him in his own crib. Of course he would throw a fit and be crying most of the night. I found a toy that played soothing music for 6 minutes straight (Baby Tad). I loved this thing, because I would get it started playing and leave the room. He would coo and play with the toy until he fell asleep. If he started crying again I would go in and start the toy playing music again. Eventually he grew out of needing me and turned his attention to the toy. Now they have toys that have remote controls to start the music playing so you don't even have to go into the room. It was a life saver for us.
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