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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: September 4, 2007 @ 6:29 PM | | | I am 55 pounds heavier than when my husband and I first together Ihave never been shinny but I was a lot smaller a I am 5'2 and was a size 10 and now am a size 16 -3 years later I don't want to be skinny ever but I do want to lose some weight.The problem my husband has with my fat is my own attitude about it.He has no problems except for how hard I tend to be on myself for gaining the weight.He is unhappy because I am and he says he loves my body the same as he ever has, he just wants me to get to a place where I am happy with it.My husband is not happy that my clothes have changed with the weight gain and I am not happy wearing some of the stuff I used too,he thinks if I buy the same type of stuff in my new size and I would still look great.So that is where we are at odds.Maybe your husband isn't distancing himself because of a physical change alone maybe there is a difference in you, either way he needs to love you for you. |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: December 4, 2007 @ 8:28 AM | | | You know my heart goes out to you. I have a boyfriend and when we started dating I was about 20lbs lighter and now he's like we have to get you on a weight loss plan. I told him flat I love me and I do want to be healthy but I be damned if I am going to hate myself or feel bad about me because someone else doesn't like the way I look. There is only one me and I am going to love me whether I'm "overweight" or thin. He shut his mouth real quick. I've been big all my life and I'm refuse to be bullied or talked down about by someone who is suppose to love me. |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: December 9, 2007 @ 10:40 PM | | | Fortunatley, and for the first time, i have a man who loves me for me. he doesnt love me for my fat or despite it. he doesnt try to feed me, and he doesnt try to stop me if i m hungry. its strange to have the support like that. and i know there are more men out there like him, and frankly every woman deserves somebody who loves them for the things that matter. |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: January 12, 2008 @ 12:26 PM | | | I've been with my bf for alost three years, I met him when I was a 14 and last year I went to a 20 and now I'm an 18. He doesnt talk about my weight he doesnt say a word because he says he doesnt care. But he will comment sometimes if I've lost weight since sometimes we are weeks apart. |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: January 13, 2008 @ 8:19 AM | | I was an 18 when I met my husband 7 years ago, now I'm a 14, he's never cared about my weight, then likes women with meat on their bones that look health.
I find if you're other is picking at you're weight, it's usually because they're unhappy with themselves and they lash out at the easiest target.
That said If all it took for him not to luv you anymore was putting on weight then he's not worth it.
Gyda |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: March 30, 2008 @ 5:02 PM | | | My fiance met me when I was big and thats what helped him fall in love with me apparently. He accepts the fact that I want to lose weight and he's there for me. He tells me I'm beautiful every day even if I don't feel like it. |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: May 9, 2008 @ 5:50 PM | | | They're are men out there who will love u for u and think u're beautiful at any and all sizes. |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: June 29, 2008 @ 11:13 AM | | Actually in my case its the oppisite. My husband thinks Im beautiful and sexy, its me who hates the way I look. I was never thin, but have gained about 30lbs since we first started dating some 5 years ago. Granted Ive had 2 kids since then, I still hate looking at myself in the mirror and have struggled with diets more times than I can count. Make sure your husband isnt hating how you feel about yourself, rather than your weight, some times I think thats the problem some women suffer from, without knowing.  |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: July 8, 2008 @ 10:25 AM | | | you should forget what he has to say and decide if you think you are fat. that is all that matters is the way you feel. if you think you are fat. then make a plan to change and give him a little credit for telling you the truth on the way he feels. if you don't think you are fat, then he has to decide if he can accept you the way you are and if not, leave him. |
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| | Subject: your husband /boyfriend get on you for being fat? | Posted: August 7, 2008 @ 10:56 AM | |
Quoting: claud
Sorry hate the word fat.. but true. MY husband hates fat.. He is now distancing himself fromme.. I weigh 280 ..I used to weigh 140.0.
Basically he does not love me.. anymore.. too fat.. I have accepted that
and joined a help group//
I married the wrong guy.. Anyone one else ????
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I'm sorry hun 
I would really try counseling to resolve some issues and see if the marriage is worth saving (if he wont go with you, you should still go).
There are so many men out there who would appreciate you for "you"...not your size. Good luck. |
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