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| | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 5, 2009 @ 12:27 PM | | My mother has been on dialysis for almost 3 yrs. Since she began dialysis I've had to work part-time to care for her bacause she no longer can take care of herself.
Since late september till now shes been in an out of the hospital. I met with her doctor and a social worker on tuesday. I honestly thought they were going to probably suggest putting my mom in a nursing home. I never thought I would hear what the doctor had to say. The doctor informed me that my mom has 10 chronic illnesses and 2 main ones being her lungs constantly being filled with liquid and her mental state. My mom had just been diagnosed with dementia. The dr. also said that they have done all they could do. The only thing keeping my mom alive is dailysis. Dialysis!!!
I was floored! I still am. The Dr. said that if we keep her on dailysis she will continue getting sick and keep coming to the hospital. But if we (sibs and I) take her off she can finally rest and go peacefully. I don't know what to do 
I am heartbroken. She means the world to me! I know what she wants, she always made it clear that she didn't want life coming from any machine.
I don't know what to think anymore. I feel like Im floating through life right now. And to top it off, Im getting a cold
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| | | | | | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 5, 2009 @ 4:51 PM | | I AM REALLY SORRY 4 UR MOTHERS SITUATION I SAW MY MOM GO THRU SUMTHIN SIMALAR W HER MOM IT WAS HARD 4 MY MOM 2 LET GO IT TOOK ALOT OF LOVE & SUPPORT FROM ME & MY BROTHER 4 HER 2 FINALY REALIZE THAT IT WAS MY GRANDMOTHER TIME 2 PASS ON & REST SHE WUD LITERALY BEG MY MOM 2 SEND HER BACK 2 MEXICO SO SHE CUD PASS ON IN HER HOME THAT MY GRANDFATHER HAD BUILT 4 HER MY MOM WUD CRY & SAY SHE CUDNT LET HER GO BUT ALL MY GRANDMOTHER WAS DOING WAS SUFFERING & SHE GOT N2 A GREAT DEPRESSION I KNOW ITS UR MOM & U DONT WANT 2 LET HER GO I WUDNT EITHER IF I WAS IN UR SHOES A MOTHER IS SUPOSSED 2 B INVINSIBLE A STRONG SUPER WOMEN NO MATTER WHAT AGE SHE IS BUT IF U & UR SIBLINGS ALREADY KNOW HER WISHES U MUST RESPECT THEM & LET HER GO IN PEACE IT IS HER TIME 2 REST Y HAVE HER WITH U WHEN ALL SHES GOING 2 DO IS SUFFER IF U LET HER GO U WILL B GIVING HER THE BEST GIFT OF ALL PEACE & HAPPINESS NO MORE DIALYSIS NO MORE ILLNESS SHE WILL B MORE GREATFUL 2 U & UR FAMILY FOR THAT....A WEEK AFTER MY GRANDMOTHER WENT HOME SHE PASSED IT WAS HARD BUT WE KNEW WE GAVE HER WAT SHE WANTED WE RESPECTED HER WISHES @ THE FUNERAL I NEVER SAW HER MORE PEACEFUL THAN @ THAT MOMENT I DONT THINK OF HER AS IF SHES GONE 2 ME SHES ON VACATION IN MEXICO VISITING MY UNCLES YELLING @ HER GRAND KIDS & GREAT GRAND KIDS THE PAIN DOESNT GO AWAY COMPLETELY BUT IT DOES GET BETTER AFTER AWHILE.....I JUST WANTED 2 SHARE MY STORY WITH U IN NO WAY DO I MEAN ANY DISRESPECT OR AM I TELLING U WAT 2 DO I JUS HOPE IT WILL HELP U...JUS REMEMBER U HAVE NO REASON 2 FEEL GUILTY 4 GIVING UR MOTHER WAT SHE WANTS & THAT IS PEACE....IM HERE IF U WUD LIKE 2 CHAT...I WISH U ALL THE LOVE & STRENTGH 4 THIS DIFFICULT TIME IN UR LIFE RITE NOW
Quoting: Soylaangel
My mother has been on dialysis for almost 3 yrs. Since she began dialysis I've had to work part-time to care for her bacause she no longer can take care of herself.
Since late september till now shes been in an out of the hospital. I met with her doctor and a social worker on tuesday. I honestly thought they were going to probably suggest putting my mom in a nursing home. I never thought I would hear what the doctor had to say. The doctor informed me that my mom has 10 chronic illnesses and 2 main ones being her lungs constantly being filled with liquid and her mental state. My mom had just been diagnosed with dementia. The dr. also said that they have done all they could do. The only thing keeping my mom alive is dailysis. Dialysis!!!
I was floored! I still am. The Dr. said that if we keep her on dailysis she will continue getting sick and keep coming to the hospital. But if we (sibs and I) take her off she can finally rest and go peacefully. I don't know what to do
I am heartbroken. She means the world to me! I know what she wants, she always made it clear that she didn't want life coming from any machine.
I don't know what to think anymore. I feel like Im floating through life right now. And to top it off, Im getting a cold
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| | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 5, 2009 @ 6:26 PM | | How absolutely heartbreaking for you ... I wish you all the best with the deisions you have to make..xx
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| | | | | | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 5, 2009 @ 9:33 PM | | Your in my thoughts and prayers. About 10 years ago my Mom, her sisters and my Memaw had to make a similar decision with my PawPaw.
It's hard but I believe you'll make the right choice for your Mom and your family.
I will be keeping y'all in my prayers! |
| | | | | | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 6, 2009 @ 10:04 AM | | What a tough situation. I do not have any wisdom or advice to give you because I have never been in a situation like this. I am so sorry for your family. It's clearly not an easy decision to make, and you do not want to have to make that kind of decision for anyone.
I guess my only advice would be to get a second opinion. It seems weird for a doctor to basically say they are giving up on someone. I understand that she obviously is ill and the doctor is trying to help, but I think a second opinion may be in order here.
I hope you find the courage and strength to deal with this situation. We will be thinking of you in your time of need. |
| | | | | | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 6, 2009 @ 3:13 PM | | i def am sorry to hear this news, i know how it can be to have to make decisions you don't know how to make, my thoughts are with you and hope you find the courage and strenth through this tough time hugs to you and praying for youand your mom
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| | | | | | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 6, 2009 @ 3:24 PM | | I am afraid there is no easy answer. Regardless of what you do, the outcome will not be ideal and for that I am truly sorry. I know what it means to have a sick parent, for I have had both of mine suffer from strokes in the last 3 years. No matter the level of severity, it is hard to watch our parents go from being the caretaker to being the one being taken care of.
During my families situation(s), we had the chance to talk about the worst case scenario and was able to get my parents verbal request. Did you and your mother ever have the chance to discuss this type of situation and what she would want for herself? If you can recall any conversation like that, it may make your decision a little easier... if that is at all possible.
In any case, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Let us know if you need anything! |
| | | | | | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 8, 2009 @ 11:34 PM | | ALL OF YOU LADIES ARE AWESOME!!! Thank you sooo much for the advice.
My family and I have decided to leave her on dialysis and let God do his will. For now, my mom isn't suffering. She's home and is just really tired from the last hospital stay.
I appreciate your prayers and well wishes.
Its heartbreaking to become a caregiver to a parent. Even though I know she needs me, I need her more.
Thank you once again.
Have a blessed day!
-V |
| | | | | | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 9, 2009 @ 9:59 PM | | I will be praying for your mom and you. Keep us posted.  |
| | | | | | Subject: I need your support, Ladies :) | Posted: November 10, 2009 @ 9:05 AM | | WOW, believe it or not less than 7 months ago, I was kinda in the same situation. My father passed on April 7 after long hospital stay in which he was doing well, hoping he was coming home then out of the blue he had a massive stroke. Dr. approached us with the same question what did we want to do. I ask that you get with you sibling and talk it over and PRAY ask God to show you what to do.
I am so sorry you are having to go thru this this. I do understand how you may feel. My father was on dialysis for only a year becuase he recieved a kidney and lived for about 3 yrs..God makes no mistakes, it us that doesn't understand..
I will keep you and your family in my prayers..
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